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Angie4b1g

Angie4b1g

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Are you close to your parents? Are they still around?

My dad moved out of state when I was 2 and I haven't seen/heard much from him since. My mom died when I was 23, but we were never close (she wasn't around much, either... long story but I was raised by my grandparents).
 
I'm actually very close to my parents. They were pretty young when they had me so that probably makes things easier... they live 45 mins away which is kind of a perfect distance. lol! ;)
 
Pretty close to my folks......heck, they only live 3 miles down the road. (And no, that was not planned but how it worked out when I met DH).

Mom & I still battle over little crap but its been that way since I was 32 and found out I had a half-sister. My dad and I are like Peas in a Pod or Peas & Carrots! We are soooo much alike it ain't even funny! :)
 
I get along great with both my parents...my dad and I have butted heads from time to time but that's because we are totally alike. We live about 9 hours away from them and only get to see them once or twice a year. We're trying desperately to get back closer to them and the rest of my family, but right now the jobs just aren't there.
 
My parents have both passed. My father when I was 9, and my mom lost a battle with lung cancer when I was 19. My mother had re-married, and I used to be pretty close with my step-dad, but some things happened, and now we don't talk or see eachother. Its pretty lonely. I'm just thankful that I had my mother with me through high school. I don't know what I would have done without her then.
 
I'm not very close to either of my parents, I talk to my mom everyday but she used to treat me badly as a child and teenager so I always keep her at arms length away, My father still acts like a child and I haven't seen him in 2+ years he lives 5 hours away.
I wish I had good parents and good grandparents for my children, it breaks my heart to see how they act.
 
My mom and I are close-ish. I've been putting up more of a wall in the last couple years as she's started to become bossier and more childish as she deals with getting older, absentmindness, etc. Instead of acknowledging that she's not the same person as she used to be (just like everyone as they age), she lives in a lot of denial and tries to be extra controlling (with me) to make up for how out of control she feels she and her life is.

My daddy died when I was 16. I miss him terribly.

My dad (my mom's second husband who adopted me when I was little) and I are not close at all. He does not have emotional depth or the ability to empathize with other people, so my being so different from him automatically makes me dumb and wrong vs. a different, but still acceptable, way to be. I am still hurt that he purposely planned my mom's 60th surprise bday party on a day when he knew I couldn't be there and, more importantly, that he doesn't understand why that would bother me or that other people in the same situation would have attempted to include me vs. deciding on the day that worked best for him and telling me to deal with it.
 
I am pretty close to both my parents. They live about 8 miles away, so we see them quite often. It's nice to have them so close. They can come watch my boys sports stuff and school stuff when they want to and also it's wonderful to have free babysitters so close. I'm fortunate that they love to watch my kids too. Sometimes, they'll call and ask if they can have them over just because it's been a week or two since they stayed over for the day or night. :)
 
I'm close with both of my parents. They live nearly 1,300 miles away (which is much closer than the 2,200 miles between us for the last 4.5 years!) so we don't see each other often - maybe 2-3 times a year. But I text my mom often and we talk on the phone about once a week. We used to talk daily but being in the same time zone has made it a bit for difficult to do that...oddly enough.
 
I'm very close to my mom - good thing since I live with her! My dad lives in the same town we live in, but I mostly only see him at my brother's house or events revolving around the nieces & nephew.
 
I'm fairly close. My mom has alzheimers and is in a nursing home now. I've visited them move in the last two years, than I have in the last 30 before that. I can't call and talk to my mom any more...and when I'm there, I plan to spend as much time as I can with her just loving on her.

My Dad still lives in his house. I try to fly up about every 3 months now and spend a week.
 
I'm super close to my mom. She's definitely been a rock for me.

My dad is in Alabama where I hope he stays and doesn't try to contact me again. He's super sporadic about calling me and the kids, so I prefer when he just doesn't.
 
All such interesting storeis - some are heartbreaking though. I was very close to my dad growing up - I was a tomboy and liked to help out on the farm but became a lot closer to my Mum when I had the kids. They are 5 hours away but we talk often on the phone and Mum has just discovered the internet so emails as well. I think I am very lucky to have them.
 
I agree, Karen-- the stories are so interesting! My parents and I were super close, even when I moved from Hawaii to Boston 17 years ago. My Mom died almost four years ago-- she was my first best friend and the person with whom I was the closest for my whole life. My Dad and I are also really close and we Skype all the time so he and his granddaughter can stay connected. We're going out to Hawaii to visit next month and I can't wait! :)
 
I am pretty close to my parents, and I love how close my parents are to my kids. I am an only child so me, hubby and the kids are the only family they have. They are visiting us right now, and my Mum is starting to grate on me. I don't think we could live in the same place, but it's nice to be close.
 
Angie4b1g said:
That sounds like a horrible idea. :rofl
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Having just returned from my first trip to Hawaii, I could not agree more!

My Mom and Dad are great, but they've never been very good and emotionally connecting and communicating the "real" stuff. They live just over an hour away and the whole family gets together once a month for dinner. My mom calls to chat every other week or so, but it's always just pleasantries and surface stuff. They love their grandkids, but again, don't really connect with them in meaningful ways. I'll always love them dearly, but I envy other peoples close relationship with their parents and hope that's what I'll have with my kids.
 
we are pretty close to both my parents and my dh parents. . . we live about 15 minutes from both of them and all of our siblings live in the state too. . . so, lots of family around. sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes it's really hard. they both want your time and we have to be very creative with the holidays. but, so glad my children have their grandparents around and know and love them~
 
Lynnette said:
Having just returned from my first trip to Hawaii, I could not agree more!

My Mom and Dad are great, but they've never been very good and emotionally connecting and communicating the "real" stuff. They live just over an hour away and the whole family gets together once a month for dinner. My mom calls to chat every other week or so, but it's always just pleasantries and surface stuff. They love their grandkids, but again, don't really connect with them in meaningful ways. I'll always love them dearly, but I envy other peoples close relationship with their parents and hope that's what I'll have with my kids.
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This is sad but I think this is us too I'm the youngest of 4 and I'm afraid to say as I'm the only one with a husband they seem to treat me differently as if I don't need them as I have somebody already,my one sister gets everything off them cause she pleads poverty when I know she gets more money from wages etc than we do,I dunno I try not to let it bother me but I suppose deep down it does we live 5 minutes from each other and unless I go there I wouldnt see them for weeks infant they see gabbi cause I take her there at least once a week but the boys they could not see for months as there at school when I go,I don't think they mean malice by it I just don't think they think,I hope and prey that I treat all my children the same and that my children could come to me with everything because I couldn't go to my mom with a problem
 
we have our moments. they live about 5 minutes from me.. Sometimes we're close, most of the time we're not ^__^
 
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