RIP: my father

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  1. berniek

    berniek I have a girl crush on the Naming Fairy

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    I kinda need my scrapping family.
    But I also might be MIA for a while..

    Some of you might know that my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer almost 4 years ago. His health and everything related has been up and down since, but especially in the last 1,5 year. We had a doctor appointment coming Monday, expecting the doctor to tell us there would be nothing more he could do. We were hoping for a couple more months.

    However, my father has died this night, at 9:25.

    My mother found him, unable to wake him up, early Tuesday morning. We rushed him in an ambulance to the hospital, where they told us he was in a coma due to a bleeding in his head that pushed on his healthy brains. It was very critique.
    Both of my sisters were away on vacation. On Tuesday evening my oldest sister came from France. On Wednesday night, my other sister and her boyfriend we also finally there, from Norway.
    My dad has stayed alive for 2,5 days. We all had a change to say goodbye. Even though he hasn't been conscious since we found him.
    Those three days has been very rough. My father was only 65.

    I am not sure what else to say or do at this time.
    Please do not talk to me on social media about this. I'm not ready for that.
     
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  2. jenn mccabe

    jenn mccabe She's OUR sunshine!

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    my heart is so very heavy for you. wish i could give you a gentle hug in person. know we are here to support you in any way we can. i'm so so sorry berniek.
     
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  3. Jan

    Jan I'm sorry, I can't. I'm busy doing nothing!

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    Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find peace and comfort as you go thru this difficult time and in the days ahead. Sending you hugs and praying for you and your loved ones.
     
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  4. bestcee

    bestcee In love with places I've never been to

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    I'm so sorry! I know I can't make your pain go away, but I'm here to listen and support you however I can. And I know the rest of us scrappy people are here for you as much as you need!
     
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  5. Tree City

    Tree City Get a stepladder, I'm busy

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    I'm so sorry. As others have said, we are here for you, however we can help. May you find the strength to get through this.
     
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  6. KatrinaHunt13

    KatrinaHunt13 And *POOF* it appeared!

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    Hugs sweetie. There is nothing that anyone can say that can make it any easier. Just know we are all thinking about you. I lost my mom in March and just know my heart is with you.....
     
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  7. jagruti patel

    jagruti patel Me love cookies! Yum! Yum!

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    Very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
     
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  8. AnneofAlamo

    AnneofAlamo Slippers IN sunshine? Even better!

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    Just here, ready to listen,aching because you hurt.
     
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  9. jk703

    jk703 CEO of Anything and Everything, Everywhere

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    Awww, Berniek! I'm so sorry, my thoughts are with you and your family! I wish I could ease your pain. Hugs.
     
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  10. dawnmarch

    dawnmarch Actually, no. You are not funny!

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    How very sad - I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing parents is one of the hardest things in life.
     
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  11. BevG

    BevG If I can't remember it, it didn't happen

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    So sorry for your loss. Just know we are here for you. {{{hugs}}}
     
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  12. ashleywb

    ashleywb Sand in my toes

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    I am so, so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
     
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  13. Nemla

    Nemla Stretching my skill set

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    My deepest sympathy. In my thoughts. One day at the time.
     
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  14. IntenseMagic

    IntenseMagic Some grannies cuss a lot. I'm some grannies.

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    I am so sorry! My heart aches for you. I lost my dad 5 years ago and I know that pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers and please know that we are all here for you if you need us. Much love to you.
     
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  15. Serena

    Serena Squishy soul poet who loves Walter Hunt

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    We are here and we have SO much love and hugs for you!! My inbox is always open if you need to talk!!
     
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  16. janedee

    janedee Is a craft project ever really finished?

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    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a few years ago so I understand what a terribly difficult time this is for you. y thoughts are with you and your family.
     
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  17. norton94

    norton94 Thank goodness I'm still a Well-Known Member

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    Oh no - I'm so very sorry. The goodbyes are so difficult, but I'm glad you got those 2 days for a little moment to say what you needed, even though he could not answer. I lost my mom last summer at 69 - but the last 4 years were with dementia, so also gone at 65... it's just way too young. Hugs to you - and your family. Thoughts for you to have pleasant memories to hold forever and for peace.
     
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  18. HeatherB

    HeatherB Ain't nothin wrong with a few dust bunnies!

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    That's so sad, Berniek. I'm so sorry for your loss.
     
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  19. LynnG

    LynnG Designer

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    I am so sorry. 65 is just so young. Thinking of you.
     
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  20. jesskab

    jesskab Watch me sizzle & twizzle

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    I am so sorry Berniek. All my love to you & your family.
     
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