Advice

"Better done than perfect." I have to repeat this to myself often, in the fight against my perfectionism, but it helps me finish things and be satisfied with them:).
I should've followed that more often. If I couldn't do things "right" I wouldn't start at all! I think I'm better now, but perfectionism is like playing hamstrung! Does not go well!
 
I have lots I've been given over the years that have served me well, but the one I probably use most often is "Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it gets you nowhere". I've learned to be really good at not worrying about stuff, so I tend to pass that one out more these days.

And also this one that I saw online somewhere, "If someone doesn't have your phone number, then they aren't important enough to have an opinion about you" I tell myself that one daily when someone at work starts to annoy me :lol
Totally agree with the worry one! Accomplishes NOTHING! The second one made me think about who has my phone number! LOL I don't give that out very often!
 
Totally agree with the worry one! Accomplishes NOTHING! The second one made me think about who has my phone number! LOL I don't give that out very often!
Yeah, I've been very protective of my phone number over the years. There are relatives I haven't even given it to! I keep my phone on DND and only those in my contacts list ring when they call. Imagine my surprise yesterday when I looked at my phone in the evening and saw that I had a phone call earlier in the day from a cousin that I haven't spoken to since 9/11/01. I have no idea how he got my phone number. I put his on my block list! He did leave a message letting me know that an uncle had died (I was told the day the uncle died in December) and he had called our aunt. He ended it with "love you" o_O He came to my house on 9/11 asking to borrow money. I said no. I haven't seen him since nor has he kept in touch with any other family so I'm very suspicious of why he actually called.
 
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou

At this point, it's been lost in the family lore who gave me that advice initial but my mom quotes it at me a lot now. I tend to believe the best of people and give a lot of second (and third and fourth) chances, much to the detriment of my heart.

Also: the best apology is changed behavior.

If someone really, truly, wants to fix things, they'll make an effort.


My in-laws are one of the main reasons I hear this advice so much.
 
The best advice I've received is to stop worrying about things you cannot change. It really prevents me from stressing about stuff that you just have to wait and see...
 
that is such a beautiful way to look at things. the best i ever got was "you cannot pour from an empty cup." it really changed how i prioritize my own mental health so i can actually be there for others.
 
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