Are you a positive Polly or a negative Nellie?

I'm an empath/HSP so I can be REALLY negative or REALLY positive. Unfortunately, I tend to attract emotional vampires, like Negative Nellies and narcissists, that make it hard to be anything but positive (& fake-positive) to combat their extreme negativity. It's super exhausting, and I'm so ready for an exit from one particular relationship that does nothing but drag me down into a vortex of toxicity.

I'm not Phil Dunphy-positive but my natural state is more positive than negative. I'm an idealist & a romantic so I always believe in the good, the truth, and the light.

 

I am definitely not a positive Polly...lol!! I am a realist. I take things for what they are. I don't feel the need to make things seem overly cheerful or negative. I have a real "it is what it is" attitude. I tend to take life as it comes. I really enjoy the good moments and dig deep. And for the negative, it really sinks me low and it's okay because it is temporary and I try to see the lesson in it or at least grow from it whether there's a lesson or not.

 

BWHAhahahahaha!!! Same, same! I am definitely a silver linings, glass half full, positive Polly...except maybe at that time!

 

Sounds like my husband..lol!!! I really try to see the light as much as I can.

 

The glass is always half full ....until someone sneaks in and drinks it.....

 

Through my years I have come to appreciate that the glass is refillable.
I can be positive, negative and realistic but have chosen to live in hope.

 

Who spilled my water because my glass is half EMPTY!!!! See what I did there? Negative Nellie here

 

I'm pretty sure I'm more positive Polly. I base this on the avoidance part of my personality. If something is too negative - an atmosphere, a person, a situation, I start avoiding it. Using the Facebook example: it's become so heavy and demoralizing that I barely get on it anymore. I have hardly anyone visible in my feed, and I haven't accepted friend requests for a while. Just rejected them all.

But I've found in my 30's that I don't have to accept or enable toxic relationships. I've found it's okay to push people to the edges or even out of my life. That's been empowering and helped me to find a better practical balance.

 

I'm very much a realist, which comes across as negative to many *shrugs shoulders*

 

Realist is okay! But, since reality is depressing a lot of times, I totally understand why people think it's negative.

I like you just the way you are. And I don't find you negative.